This Is Nothing

There will always be people who hate you or hate on you for something you did. In truth, people will hate you because you are not perfect. You made a promise that you didn’t keep, so someone hates you. You said something that you should have kept to yourself, and you are hated. Maybe, you attempted something great and failed, so again, you are hated. This list can go on and on without end.

What’s also true is that there are people who know everything or definitely a lot more about you than others, who still love you. Think about it. With all of your faults and failures, there are still people who love you. There are people that have stood by your side. There is someone who has been with you through the thick and the thin. There is at least one somebody whose love did not tremble when you were in trouble.

Discern between those who hate you for what you have done and those who love you for who you are. When a person’s feelings are merely based on your actions then that’s a recipe for failure. We all fail in one way or another. Every relationship must have a built in accident forgiveness policy. Where there is no room for failure, there is no possibility for success. And if you are with someone who is perfect, that belittles and berates you, then hear me carefully, they don’t deserve you. I, now rush to put in my disclaimer, do not use this or me as your sign from God to leave or to do something irrational. The statement still holds true. And just in case you think I did not say it correctly, then I will repeat it. A perfect person does not deserve you.

Your life proves that you can be loved and at the same time not be perfect. I would submit that you should be loved with and through your faults. It has to be this way. You cannot undo the past. Real love embraces and even adorns your scars. No one makes it through this life without scars. Your scars are your stars. Stars are what shine in the night. Stars are what can pierce the darkness giving hope to countless others who are going through the same thing you have been through. Stars are your night-lights. Stars are the part of you that no matter how dark it got the darkness couldn’t snuff you out. Don’t let anybody fool you, and please don’t fool yourself. You don’t have to be perfect to be loved. Find real love and not a perfect person. Real love hides, even adorns, a multitude of faults. Sure, we should always be found improving ourselves, but never always having to prove ourselves. When you spend your life having to prove your love over and over again in each and every thing you say and do, you probably constantly get a grade of “F”. Now here is the difference. The perfect love for you, without any effort or improvement on your part, will automatically give you and “A+” with and “E” in conduct. Then, this love will shred up the entire grading system, apologize that you had to live that way, assure you that they will absorb any shortcoming or lack on your part and gladly make up the difference. This is nothing.